As my one year anniversary approaches, I realize a common factor in many of the married couples I know. In each case, these people expected their significant other to change once they got married. When will we as people understand that we do not have the power to change others. We can influence and inspire people, help them to see another prospective, but we can not change anyone. A person is not going to change in drastic ways because they said vows to you. If someone was abusive before marriage, they will still be abusive during. If they were lazy, rude, couldn't cook, didn't clean, etc. they will remain the same during and after marriage. I am very old school when it comes to my views on marriage. I believe that a woman is a better housekeeper and that every house needs a woman's touch. I believe that the man does wear the pants. I also believe in equality in the home and decisions being made together. Both partners need to be able to adjust and step up to the plate in the event that something happens such as an injury, illness or change in employment schedule. In my eyes, a marriage is a partnership between two people who care enough for each other to stay committed to each other for life. Just like any partnership there will be bumps in the road, but that commitment to the cause and the love between you helps you get through it. You both need to be able to listen. You both need to be able to openly express yourself to the other. You both need separate hobbies. You will need some time to spend away from one another. You do not have to agree on everything, but you have to agree to disagree and be able to accept the differences you have. These differences make your marriage diverse. When I said my vows, I meant every word of them and a year later I can say that due to the things I have mentioned above, I am very happy in my marriage. My marriage and my family are my top priorities in life and there is nothing that will ever change that. To anyone considering marriage, please take some time to reflect and be sure that you can live with this person forever, whether they change or stay just the same. We can't help who we love and God puts us together with people for a reason. Remember that we come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly and loving them just the same. May your marriage be blessed!
Our Subconcious Greed
I realized this morning that we as Americans are greedy in nature. Some of you may be thinking otherwise, but our greed is often hidden. We always strive for more, we always want more but rarely give. We are all subconciously greedy. We tell family and friends that we do not have anything to give when they are in need. Now, you and I both know that's not the truth. We simply just don't want to give. Furthermore, many of us don't know how to give. I believe it's time to stop asking, stop wanting, and stop pleading for more. We should be thankful for all that we have and even what we do not. Not having much made me grateful for the things I did have. It made me work harder to earn the things I wanted. It made appreciate the value, no matter how little, these things hold. Greed does not come with only tangible items such as money and belongings. We also tend to be greedy in our relationships. It is always about us. The wedding is about the bride, Sweetest Day abou
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